09-01-21

They will tell you who you are. What to do. How to be. Only if you listen...

Having the self confidence to trust your instincts is a muscle you keep developing. There are so many questions, and I found reading books helped me get those answered.
It's easy to trust what everybody says, but it may not be right for you at the moment.
I read alot. Books, social media, magazine articles. Educating oneself helps with personal evolution. Knowing who you are and having the right tools are your disposal are resources that keep on giving. Reading helps you discern the facts from the fiction.
Of course, one must choose wisely as you proceed forward.

08-01-21

I remember living a much different life than this.

In thse days, there was more chaos from my own choices, and of course my interactions with others. There was people pleasing. Trying to reach unattainable standards expected by family, partners, lovers and friends.
For years, it was simply just a way of being.
My life changed with loss of loved ones, betrayal of trusted ones, and recognition that some relationships were so toxic that I was inadvertedly contributing to my own self sabtotage by participating.

Letting go is never easy, until it is.
Grieving what is no longer is normal. Making better choices changes the trajectory.
I am grateful for the journey to get here.
Thrival suits me better. Jumping through hoops to please is definitely a thing of the past...

07-01-21

I like many of you are watching as events unfold.
The disregard for others, the entitlement, the political scene here and over there, and it's all on display for others to see.
There have always been people that make brutally bad choices. There have always been those that strive to do right by others.
As someone who has seen both the evil and the good that men do, I am still paying attention to how others conduct themselves.
The behaviour of others is meant to influence who you are and what life means when we notice.
Then, choose wisely based on all this data.
Wear your mask. Social distance and stay safe...

06-01-21

We need rest. Taking time out for a break is key, for a more peaceful life.
I move towards mindfulness.
After a very challenging season, slowing it down helps. Life is changing all the time.
It's all good...

05-01-21

All those years spent trying to be everything to everybody.
The pandemic has given us a chance to recoonnect with ourselves.
I am grateful for this aspect.

04-01-21

Sometimes we need to remind ourselves of what we once wanted to see if that dream is still viable in these new times.

Is it your desire, or a projection of something someone told you to do?
Family plays a role in this as you were growing up. They may even influence you now, as the old tapes from childhood may be playing in your inner dialogue.
Personal empowerment and having an inventory of your values can help lead you to the next step.

Just be sure your decisions are yours alone. With support, a plan and consistent effort, there is no doubt you can get to where you need to be. Begin now. Where You are.
Read the books. Listen to the podcasts. Take the courses. Change the trajectory of your life...

03-01-21

I was so angry when the new owner decided during the pandemic to evict all tenants and demolish the building. How do I forgive someone who blatently lied to me by saying at the time,
"Don't worry, I will never tear down the building for condos and you can live here forever..." he had said.

When your life is shaken and your sense of security is threatened, the anger is justified.
I thought, I'd be the hold-out and stay put.
What I choose to do instead, was not resist the re-route and began planning my exit.
It was expensive, labour intensive, gruelling in the heat and very challenging. After all it had been eight years there, and forced change never is easy to deal with.

Forgiveness is a form of letting go, but they are not the same thing. To be clear, the purpose of forgiveness is not to let the person who harmed you off the hook, the purpose of forgiveness is to end the grief it has cost you.

And so, I made the move.
10,000 books. 2 cats. Having the help and devotion of my best friend CB, we made it.
I still believe in instant karma, however...