03-04-21

Belief. Freewill. You truly get to choose.
We are the stories we tell ourselves.
If You knew it was happening for a reason
You'd soon know that it's best to make trophies of the trauma...

02-04-21

Never has this been more apt.
Promises made. Never delivered.
It's easy to be manipulated if the truth is obscured.
The disconnect is so obvious.
Gather evidence if You must.
Weigh the arguments of each side.
Or use your intuition and trust that You will know your own truth
Despite the spin and gaslighting...

01-04-21

It's so easy to get caught up in the arguments and one-sidedness of what's going on.
Projection is like that. He said. She said.
Maybe just bear witness for a time.
The opportunity to participate will show itself when the time is right.
For now, listen to and watch what they say they will do.
Then You will know if your contribution benefits You or them...
Or not at all.

31-03-21

Showing up for ourselves is healing.
What we do from integrity endures...

30-03-21

I have always been accused of being 'too nice'.
Too forgiving. Too much a doormat.
Only what my accusers hardly understand is compassion.
I have a policy: Meet people where they are at.
Indeed, sometimes it has served me.
Sometimes I have been taken advantage of.
Sometimes there reciprocity.
Sometimes it's a dead end.
Knowing and learning, being able to recognize the signs.
Developing discernment, seeing the truth of people, and seeing the truth of myself.
I choose how I respond, nowadays.
The days of reacting unconsciously, or by route are long gone...

29-03-21

No response, is a response.
Learn to grey rock that narcissist.
Learn to ignore and not react to those flying monkeys.
They will try to get an emotional, upsetting reaction. Don't allow it.
Letting go and going 'no contact' is the BEST gift You can give yourself when
Escaping an abuser and narcissist.
Being able to de-intensify that toxicity and anxiety ultimately equips You with the key tool
to begin assigning your energy back to You.
Be sure to have a support system.
Be sure to get counselling.
By ignoring their behaviour, their energy, their antics
You set yourself free...

28-03-21

There are no coincidences.
The people that we love and involve ourselves with share a similar dynamic to our family of origin.
Once we recognize this pattern, we can make different choices.
Wiser choices.
Letting go, and better boundaries.
Assertiveness, silence, growth mindset and loving detachment.
I for decades unconsciously recreated and attracted the familiar.
Until I learned. Now I do better... (and suffer less!)