28-02-21

You get to create what your reality is.
You can choose to accept just what fate has handed You
Or take all that hardship, tragedy and pain and transcend it.
Use your life (as Oprah says).
Tap into the emotions to fuel your creativity.
Or, drink til You are numb.
Blame other people for your perceived predicament and be angry
Or move through it. Help others to help yourself.
We are the stories we tell ourselves...

27-02-21

It is so easy to get stuck in grief.
It is so easy to get stuck in anger.
By being able to feel and process (and learning how) to move through those feelings will set You free.
I have spent decades mourning.
What did not come to pass.
Loved ones that died.
Betrayal of trusted relationships.
Only to arrive at today.
Truth is, You must choose wisely.
Love deeply.
And let go of that which is meant to remain in the past...

26-02-21

I'll admit that I have stayed too long at times.
I spent many years with partners who were so wrong for me.
I kept waiting for their 'potential' to show up
For the 'promises' to come true
For the lies to end.
Life is complicated by the reasons why we choose what we do.
I have stayed and endured terrible work places because I needed the money.
I have stayed and endured abusive behaviour disguised as love.
I have tolerated what is familiar, til I knew better.
Learning about all of that has increased my awareness.
Educated me. Healed me (once I left) and informed my next choices.
It is possible to want and love things not meant for You.
Once You know better, do better...

25-02-21

My love for You never ends.
What ends, is my attachment of You.
Yes, You have gone.
Yes, You have left me.
I grieve, I move on.
Emotional stuckness (if You will) is a trap that keeps You at a stand still.
There are times when it's appropriate to visit this, but don't remain there.
Do not find yourself living from and deciding from that place.
Everything that lives, must die, one day.
People, projects, events, situations and tragedy all have a certain shelf life.
You decide how long it will take.
Before You make a move...

24-02-21

A gratitude mindset will help You
Move through grief, regret, anger and other emotional pain that holds You back.
The only way out, is through...

23-02-21

If You reflect on the things You have lived through, You'd know that, indeed, You have what it takes.
I have survived child abuse, cruelty, indifference, domestic violence, a house fire, toxic partners, toxic workplaces, emotional abuse, loss and extreme poverty.
Some as a result of my choices.
Some as situational circumstances.
Truth is this is life. My life.
I have endured, only to learn.
I have suffered only to develop compassion.
Trust and forgiveness for one's self and others
Are teachers of wisdom, if You allow yourself to go there...

22-02-21

Feed your Soul.
Watch over exposure to negativity.
Avoid arguing online.
Get enough rest.
Exercise and meditate.
Read. Listen to music.
Keep learning. Keep moving forward.
Be cognizant of my inner dialogue with myself.
These are the habits I must remind myself to do daily.
For, as an emotional eater, it's easy to be addicted to things (and people) not good for me...

21-02-21

Reflecting on life is a good thing, as it connects You to those pieces of yourself that You may have forgotten.
So long as You don't get stuck there.
Once upon a time, I was a homeless teenager escaping a dreadful, abusive home.
The final assault came, and I knew I was in real danger and had to leave.
In thse days, there was no support.
It was your word, against theirs.
Thankfully, I was resourceful enough to make it out of peril.
Life is fraught with many challenges.
And at the same time, there is much joy.
Remember who You are,
Where You have been,
Move forward
Heal, and keep aiming for thrival...

20-02-21

Not all crucial decisions can be made in the blink of an eye.
It's prudent to journal, and mulling over ideas can lead to break throughs.
Ruminating, overthinking absolutely can take your creativity in a negative path.
Some thoughts stir stronger feelings.
This is normal.
Best to stay in the moment, and plot out what comes next.
Ideation is a great tool.
Especially when things do not go as planned...

19-02-21

Famous last words...LOL
And that is perfectly OK.
Begin anew again. (Yes, again.)
If You believe in the totality of possibility, there is always another way.
Another way to do things.
Improved ways, smarter ways, more strategic ways.
Change is inevitable.
If You realize everything is temporary, and if You develop a more flexible outlook
There's no telling what opportunities may present themselves.
Choose wisely, and keep moving forward on the path to living your best life...

18-02-21

Why not react less?
The energy spent being upset can very well be channelled into something else.
Towards self care, perhaps?
Feeling your feelings is good.
Being a witness to life, ditto.
You decide what has impact.
What has staying power.
What does in fact affect change.
And if You are dealing with that toxic narcissist (or their flying monkeys) choose to go grey rock. That is a measured response, as opposed to a reaction (which is their fuel).
Choose more self directed peace, if You can...

17-02-21

Stabilty. Begin there...
If You realized that simply changing your approach would yield different results why wouldn't You want that?
It was once believed that if You stayed the same, year in and year out
Your life would run smoothly.
I have news for You.
There is no safety in remaining the same.
We must adjust to the times.
Grow. Forgive. Heal. Let go.
Then grow some more...

16-02-21

This is where the power is.
When You are able to make a change in how You see things, it's true, the things You see, then change.
Perception is everything.
That's the starting point.
In the midst of the chaos, ask not 'why me'?
Ask, reflect and contemplate: 'what's next?'
See the patterns of how You react.
Then, respond in a new way.
You get to choose...

15-02-21

Life is change.
Relationships, Friendships, homes, jobs, priorities...it all changes.
Unexpected change, or having circumstances that force change is the harder to bear at times.
That is why resilience and mindfulness are so helpful as You weather the seasons that alter your world as You know it.
There will be loss. There will be grief. There will be betrayal.
Surrender when it's possible.
Transitioning through pain without resistance will fill You with feelings.
What You choose to do as a result of all of that
Moves You forward, or keeps You stuck...

14-02-21

This is the secret. Extreme self care.
Make a point of taking better care of yourself, now that there is time.
You're a dangerous person if You go though things alone and come back better, stronger, braver and whole...

13-02-21

Sure, this one is hard. Yet, it can be done.
As someone who has survived CPTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), intimate domestic violence, child abuse and bullying in the workplace, it is indeed possible.
In dedicating to a life of extreme self care, healing and moving through debilitating limiting beliefs I can say, absolutely this can be done.
Identifying and differentiating is key.
Building self trust by doing the hard work of recovering from these traumas and wounds leads to freedom from suffering.
Life is challenging.
Making informed choices based on intuition will never lead You astray...

12-02-21

Shop local.
Help support solopreneurs, Mom and Pop shoppes and artist run collectives.
There will always be the large conglomerates.
If You become more conscious of where You spend your hard earned dollars, it benefits society at large.
If You discover that your poliics do not agree with and are not congruent with a business/service, make a new choice to go with the well known competitor or shop online elsewhere.
We can make a difference by who we support.
Having the knowledge and exercising discernment aligns your values as a purchaser...

11-02-21

Isn't this a great list? Resources such as these are so helpful.
If You are recovering from a toxic, narcissistic relationship this will help keep You on point.
If You are facing insurmountable obstacles, knowledge is your new best friend.
Wisdom comes with age.
Wisdom comes with and inspite of the damage.
Wisdom comes as we mature, evolve and heal.
Time to live your best life...

10-02-21

You do get to choose.
How You repsond,
If You respond, and when.
Freewill will take You places You have been to before,
And to places You have yet to be.
Knowing why You do what You do is part of the path.
Acting unconsciously vesus responding consciously, is simply knowing.
Choose wisely. Arrive safely.
And know it's the journey, not so much the destination...

09-02-21

Your internal dialogue matters.
How You speak to yourself, and the way You language events, feelings and find meaning, matters.
Same goes for using visualization.
What You see in your mind's eye, You can create.
You may lie to yourself or be in denial about things or people.
You may also be the only member in your personal fan club.
It'a all OK.
Evolve if You can. Forgive where You can.
Create a better future for yourself.
Begin now...

08-02-21

Trust is so important.
Especially in this age of narcissism, sociopathy, racism, nationalism, and extremism.
For those of us who have suffered emotional and/or physical abuse finding trust helps us heal. For those of us recovering from toxicity in relationships, our families, and our workplaces.
Trust with another.
A best friend, therapist, support group.
And trust within our selves...

07-02-21

If You are able to reflect on how far You have come, You'd understand your power.
The events You have overcome have developed your resillience.
Tap into that.
Surviving tragedy, loss, betrayal, and challenges have got You to here.
You've grown through all You have lived through, and this is no different.
Stay in the moment.
Keep your focus.
Thoughts become things.
You have all You need to make it.
You can do this...

06-02-21

I have always been about maintaining balance between what I do and how I feel.
It's a challenge when priorties and mental health are sometimes at odds.
Practicing mindfulness has helped.
Practicing extreme self-care has helped.
It's been an unsettling year for most of us.
Hopefully, You have found a way to make the adjustments needed.
It's certainly time for introspection, reflection and goal setting.
If You were ever discontented by the life You were living, now is the time to create a new version.
When desire and ingenuity meet, dreams can come true...

05-02-21

Especially this time of year, some of us are more prone than others.
Maybe it's in part due to the lack of sunshine.
Maybe it's due to emotional triggers.
Maybe the media plays a role. Or the ever so pervasive political landscape.
Maybe the pandemic isolation is taking it's toll.
Maybe over exposure to social media is affecting.
Just know, You are not alone...

04-02-21

If You believe in the totality of possibility, something new or someone new can show up at any moment.
If You choose to open your mind and adopt a growth mindset, anything can happen...

03-02-21

How You think is a large determinant to what comes next.
If You are confidant in your skills, opportunities will arrive. Just recognize them as such.
If You are fearful, feel trapped and lack belief, odds are very likely that's what will show up.
Try to see the good in everything.
Try to see the good in everyone.
Of course, all of this is subjective.
Yet, the good news is: There is freewill. You get to choose...

02-02-21

Sometimes the pain of striving is just too hard.
Absolutely, life is filled with struggle and challenges.
It is also filled with magic, miracle moments, joy and love.
You get to choose when to persevere. You get to choose when to let go.
Just know that it sometimes requires a lot of sweat equity, faith and trust to follow on through.
Choose wisely...

01-02-21

This is the key.
Love them as they are.
Love them as they show up.
Then, when they show You who they are,
Keep loving them, even if You have to let them go...